Available in: English   Bahasa   Go to media page

Respect Your Parents, Especially Your Mothers!

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham Kabbani

16 August 2012 Fenton Zawiya, Michigan

Important Warning

Asr Suhbah

As-salaamu `alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh. This is an important message that has come to me today from Mawlana Shaykh Nazim, may Allah (swt) give him long life, and from Grandshaykh `AbdAllah ad-Daghestani (q). It is a warning for everyone. You have to be very careful about this message. Some people might not consider it important, but it is really important. It might look like a very simple message to everyone, but it’s not simple in front of Allah (swt). It is a dangerous issue and everyone is in danger of falling into it!

The message is about treatment of one’s parents. Anyone who swears at their parents will not see Mawlana’s face on Judgment Day and he will not intercede for them! Allah (swt) has mentioned in the Holy Qur’an:

َقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلاَهُمَا فَلاَ تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلاَ تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلاً كَرِيمًا

Wa qadaa rabbuka allaa ta`budoo illaa iyyaahu wabi ‘l-waalidayni ihsaanan immaa yablughanna `indaka ’l-kibara ahaduhumaa aw kilaahumaa falaa taqul lahumaa uffin wa laa tanharhumaa wa qul lahumaa qawlan kareem.

Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. (Surat al-’Israa, 17:23)

Saying “uff” shows that theirs is a matter that disgusts you. If the parents say something, even one word, the children rebel, whereas Allah (swt) said in the Holy Qur’an that we cannot even dare say “uff” to them or He will prevent us from His Paradise, especially those who are swearing at their parents, both fathers and mothers! Mawlana Shaykh Nazim said there is a tajjali coming now in these last ten days of Ramadan. Anyone who swears in the face of his mother or father, the Prophet (s) will not look at him on the Day of Resurrection! Also, Mawlana will not look at his face and he will not get shafa`a, Intercession!

Too many children today are swearing at their parents. They rebel and run away. They think they have the perfect mind and the parents don't know anything. If I hear that someone swore in the face of his father or mother, I will report it to Mawlana Shaykh and from him it will be reported to Prophet (s)! When we are tough, we are tough, and when we get permission to speak, we get permission! The Prophet (s) said:

الجنة تحت اقدام الأمهات

Al-jannatu tahta aqdaami ’l-ummahaat.

Paradise lies under the feet of mothers. (Bukhari, Muslim)

You will not enter Paradise if you swear at your mother! It is better for such a person to be thrown in the dump, where dogs can eat him. Be careful. Prophet (s) was very careful about the Ummah understanding that mothers and parents are sacred, because they carried you, brought you up, nourished you, looked after you, they spent their lives for your sake, they did everything for you so you can be happy! Now you are throwing stones in their face by swearing at them and refusing to follow what they say to you, and you are making issues for them out of things that are not important at all. They buy you clothes, jewellery, shoes, cars; they buy you everything and they send you to the best schools, and at the end you come and swear in their faces!

I am telling you this for the first and last time: anyone who swears, particularly at his mother but including his father, will not enter Paradise, and Prophet (s) first mentioned the honor of mothers. So you have to be very careful and remember that if you swear at them in their faces, Mawlana Shaykh will be looking at you at that moment! Awliyaullah are looking at you and they will knock you down. You will be ashamed of yourself on the Day of Judgment and you will get lots of sicknesses in dunya. Why do people get sickness? It is due to the negative energy from these fights between parents and children!

So today you have to make a promise in your heart, a promise in front of Prophet (s), in front of Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (q), in front of Grandshaykh `AbdAllah ad-Daghestani (q) and in front of everyone! Say, “Yaa Rabbee, tubtu wa rajatu ilayh, “O my Lord! I am asking for Your forgiveness, I repent and come back to You! Forgive me and accept my repentance.”

You have to promise from today, no fighting with your parents. If you fight with your parents, I will turn my face from you and then you will be disconnected in this dunya, you will be left alone, and you will not find marriage, children, you will not find a wife or a husband, and you will be miserable! Don’t ever get angry in the face of the mother or the father. Just say, sami`na wa ataa`naa, “We listen and we obey.” Are you obeying? (Yes!) Everyone, raise your hands! Fatihah.

A lot of complaints from students all over the world about this issue are coming to Mawlana Shaykh’s heart. Grandshaykh `AbdAllah (q) is saying (for me to tell you), “Don’t turn your mother’s and father’s life into misery! Be obedient, don’t rebel. Be a good citizen, a good person that is loyal to his country, his community, and to his father and mother.”

Wa min Allahi 't-tawfeeq, bi hurmati 'l-habeeb, bi hurmati 'l-Fatihah.


© Copyright 2012 Sufilive. All rights reserved. This transcript is protected

by international copyright law. Please attribute Sufilive when sharing it. JazakAllahu khayr.