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The Path Consists Only of Adab

Mawlana Shaykh Hisham Kabbani

7 August 2012 Sheffield, UK

`Asr Suhbah at Sheffield Islamic Center

… or a certain reason and that reason is what concerns us today, because in the time of the Sahaabah (r), they were able to see the Prophet (s) and learn directly from him, but now we are in the days where the Prophet (s) is among us but we cannot see him. He has been veiled from us by our bad characters and bad `amal that we are doing! But Prophet (s) mentioned something that makes us happy all our life, when he asked the Sahaabah (r):

Ibn `Abbas (r) related:

وعن بن عباس أنه قال لجلسائه يوما :أي الناس أعجب إيمانا؟ قالوا : الملائكة. قال: وكيف لا تؤمن الملائكة والأمر فوقهم يرونه؟ قالوا :الأنبياء. قال: وكيف لا يؤمن الأنبياء والأمر ينزل عليهم غدوة وعشية؟ قالوا: فنحن .قال: وكيف لا تؤمنون وأنتم ترون من رسول الله ما ترون؟ ثم قال: قال رسول الله :" أعجب الناس إيمانا قوم يأتون من بعدي يؤمنون بي ولم يروني . أولئك إخواني حقا ".

The Prophet (s) asked the Sahaabah (r), “Who has the strongest faith in their heart?” They answered, “The prophets!” Prophet (s) said, “How will they not have strong faith when revelation comes to them?” They said, “Then it is the angels!” Prophet (s) said, “How will they not have strong faith when they are in the Divine Presence?” They answered, “Us, your Sahaabah!” Prophet (s) said, “How will they not have strong faith when you also see me?” He (s) said, “The best of people will come at the End of Time, and they will not see me but they still believe in me. They are my brothers, truly.” (Sahih Bukhari)

So that is you: you are believing and not seeing the Prophet (s), so you have the strongest iman, which doesn’t mean a higher level than the Companions, but a special level.

Sayyidina Hasan (r), grandson of the Prophet (s), said the Prophet (s) said, "You (Sahaabah) are in a time when if you take ninety percent of Islam and leave ten percent, Shaytan will have conquered you. And there is coming another time when whoever upholds ten percent of the religion will be saved.”

That is because he is holding fire in his hands! Now everywhere you go people point at you (who are dressed as Muslims), especially people with turbans; you will be under scrutiny, although we are peaceful people. But may Allah forgive some Muslims who have made a bad name for Islam. If you don’t ... there will be punishment. So this is an obligation and you have to do it. But that? Is not an obligation. If you are an angry person. Many people come to me and say, "My husband (or child) is angry all the time.”

The Prophet (s) said:

‏‏ انما بعثت لاتمم مكارم الاخلاق

I have been sent to perfect the best of conduct (your behavior and character). (Bazzaar)

The Prophet (s) perfected the Sahaabah (r), about whom he said:

أصحابي كالنجوم بأيهم اقتديتم اهتديتم

My Companions are like stars (on a dark night); whichever of them you follow, you will be guided.

(`Abd ibn Humayd, ad-Daraqutnee, ibn `Adiyy, ibn `Abd al-Barr, with unsound chains but the meaning is sound)

... Angry means...how then can we say we are following the Prophet (s) and we are not following his footsteps? Allah (swt) said:

قُلْ إِن كُنتُمْ تُحِبُّونَ اللّهَ فَاتَّبِعُونِي يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللّهُ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ وَاللّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

Say (O Muhammad), "If you (really) love Allah, then follow me! Allah will love you and forgive your sins, and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Surat Aali-'Imraan, 3:31)

So it means if we love the Prophet (s) we must not be angry with anyone, especially our mother.Don’t scold your mother! You cannot enter Paradise if your mother is not happy with you. Kiss your mother's hand daily and you might be forgiven.

Any action Allah might forgive, but if you break someone's heart in any way, by saying bad things or shouting at them, there is no forgiveness! Why? Allah will forgivem but you have to ask forgiveness from the one whose heart you broke. Allah )swt) will tell you, “First go to my servant (and ask forgiveness)!”

In another hadith, when the Prophet (s) asked the Sahaabah (r), “Who is the bankrupt, poor one who has nothing?” The Sahaabah (r) said, “The one who has no money.” The Prophet (s) said, “No, the one who has no `amal is poor.” And they said, “Even if he fasts and prays?” He said, “Yes, even if he fasts and prays.”

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ أَتَدْرُونَ مَا الْمُفْلِسُ قَالُوا الْمُفْلِسُ فِينَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَنْ لَا دِرْهَمَ لَهُ وَلَا مَتَاعَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ الْمُفْلِسُ مِنْ أُمَّتِي مَنْ يَأْتِي يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ بِصَلَاتِهِ وَصِيَامِهِ وَزَكَاتِهِ وَيَأْتِي قَدْ شَتَمَ هَذَا وَقَذَفَ هَذَا وَأَكَلَ مَالَ هَذَا وَسَفَكَ دَمَ هَذَا وَضَرَبَ هَذَا فَيَقْعُدُ فَيَقْتَصُّ هَذَا مِنْ حَسَنَاتِهِ وَهَذَا مِنْ حَسَنَاتِهِ فَإِنْ فَنِيَتْ حَسَنَاتُهُ قَبْلَ أَنْ يُقْتَصَّ مَا عَلَيْهِ مِنْ الْخَطَايَا أُخِذَ مِنْ خَطَايَاهُمْ فَطُرِحَ عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ طُرِحَ فِي النَّارِ . رواه مسلم والترمذي

The Prophet (s) said:

Do you know who the muflis (bankrupt one) is? The muflis from my Ummah is one who comes on the Day of Judgment having performed prayer, fasting, and giving zakaat. However, along with all of this, he abused this person and slandered that person, ate the wealth of this person and unlawfully spilled the blood of that person. These people will take from his good deeds. If, however, his good deeds become exhausted, then their sins will be put upon him and he will be thrown into the Fire. (Muslim and Tirmidhi)

No, your `amal will be thrown in your face because Allah will reject your good deeds when you break someone's heart!

Now children know computers more than their parents, and when you allow your children to play on the computer all the time, you are bringing Shaytan in your home and that is why they cannot know where the limits are.

رحم الله امرأ عرف حده و وقف عنده

May Allah grant mercy to a man who knows his limits and stops at it.

The Prophet (s) said, “Whoever knows his limits will stand by his limits.”

You cannot cross the red line or immediately you will be arrested. What about Akhirah? When you pass over the line of whatever Allah declared forbidden, He will not be happy with you and a heavenly ticket will be issued against you. Do you want that? No. So that is why we are coming to Prophet (s), saying, “Yaa Sayyidee! Yaa Rasoolullah, (save us)!”

Allah (swt) said:

وَلَوْ أَنَّهُمْ إِذ ظَّلَمُواْ أَنفُسَهُمْ جَآؤُوكَ فَاسْتَغْفَرُواْ اللّهَ وَاسْتَغْفَرَ لَهُمُ الرَّسُولُ لَوَجَدُواْ اللّهَ تَوَّابًا رَّحِيمًا

If they had only, when they were unjust to themselves, come to you and asked Allah's forgiveness, and the Messenger had asked forgiveness for them, they would have found Allah indeed Oft-returning, Most Merciful. (Surat an-Nisa, 4:64)

Prophet (s) said:

ما بين قبري و منبري روضة من رياض الجنة

What is between my grave and my pulpit is a garden from the gardens of Paradise. (Ahmad)

Prophet (s) said, “Between my grave and my minbar is a grove from Paradise,” different pieces from heavens. That is the Rawdah that Allah gave to him to be part of Paradise. And also Majaalis adh-Dhikr are pieces of Paradise! So this and any masjid wherein people sit and speak about the Prophet (s) and remember Allah, those circles will become Riyaad al-Jannah, Groves of Paradise. Do you want to be Ahl al-Jannah?

عن معبد بن خالد سمعت حارثة بن وهب قال سمعت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول ألا أدلكم على أهل الجنة كل ضعيف متضعف لو أقسم على الله لأبره وأهل النار كل جواظ عتل مستكبر

The Prophet (s) asked, “Shall I describe to you the people of Paradise? Kullu da`eefan mutada`f, every humble, weak person.”

So he was the most humble and Allah raised him to the highest station of Qaaba Qawsayni aw Adnaa, Two-Bows’ Length or Nearer. If there is some discussion among some people, if you follow that in a school or university, only listen but don’t say anything. By listening you will get an understanding of what I'm saying. Don’t try to put your finger in it or you will burn yourself, so just say, "I am listening." Look and observe. When you see them talking and the person's hands moving this way or that, you can understand from their movement, this is how psychologists understand people. So first of all is to be silent, then listen. Fighting is not humble. Don’t talk. Look the people playing chess, how they sit observing their opponent, how he turns his eyes, his hands, his watch. So be humble. If you are not humble then you are not with the Prophet (s).

Then he said, "Shall I describe for you the people of the Fire?” They said, “Yes” (so they could run away from that character), and the Prophet (s) said, “Everyone who is arrogant.”

Today they like to argue about everyone. The student argues with the teacher. Analyze this one, and break it down in order to analyze this personality and by age 18 or 19 they take some Ahadith and become a big mufti on the Internet! That is takkabur. `Utulin is ignorant, doesn't know anything and will cause you to deviate to the wrong area and direct you to a wrong direction.

O Muslims! The Bedouin came to the Prophet (s) and said, “When is Judgment Day?” And the Prophet (s) said, “That is a long way to go. What have you prepared for that journey?” He said, “O Prophet of Allah! I have not prepared much of worship, prayers and fasting, but I love you and I love Allah!” Prophet (s) said:

يحشر المرء مع من أحب

Each person will be resurrected with the one he loves.

May we love Prophet (s) more and more!

Wa min Allahi 't-tawfeeq, bi hurmati 'l-habeeb, bi hurmati 'l-Fatihah.


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