A`oodhu billahi min ash-Shaytaani 'r-rajeem.
Bismillaahi 'r-Rahmaani 'r-Raheem.
Eid Mubarak. May Allah (swt) allow us to live until next Eid. The next Eid is Jumu`ah. May Allah (swt) allow us to be present in His Divine Presence when He calls us to prayer. When you’re called to the prayer of Jumu`ah, you have to run to Dhikrullah. May Allah (swt) make us from the ones who run to His Dhikr.
We have to run to any majlis of Dhikrullah, whether it’s your tariqah or not, it does not matter. You’re not going there for a person, you’re going there for Allah (swt), to perform Dhikrullah. You don’t need permission. They say, “Shaykh, can we go to this or that Dhikr?” You can go to any Dhikr. It’s Dhikrullah, you’re not going for a person. You’re going for Allah (swt)’s Pleasure. May Allah (swt) always keep us in the circles of Dhikr.
Awliyaullah have said and Sayyidina Isma`il al-Hakki (r) has mentioned it in his book. What are the signs of wisdom and knowledge? One sign is when you respect elders. It is not only about conforming to Shari`ah but it is also about having perfect manners, moral excellence. The second sign is to have gentleness and kindness on the small ones and to speak to others with leniency and softness. If your friend is higher than you--mashaa-Allah, all of you are higher than me. Alhamdulillah. Everybody is higher than everybody but if your friend is higher than you, accompany him with respect. If that friend is the same level as you then you have to accompany him with honesty. Don’t cheat him or lie to him. If he is less than you then you have to accompany him with compassion and mercy.
It is the Rahmah of Allah (swt) that you have become soft with them, you have become merciful with them. If you are harsh, people will escape.
فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ ٱلْقَلْبِ لَٱنفَضُّوا۟ مِنْ حَوْلِكَ فَٱعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَٱسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِى ٱلْأَمْرِ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ
Fa bimaa Rahmatin minAllahi linta lahum. Wa law kunta fadhan ghalida ‘l-qalbi la ’anfaddu min hawlika.
It is part of the Mercy of Allah that thou dost deal gently with them Wert thou severe or harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about thee: so pass over (their faults), and ask for (Allah's) forgiveness for them; and consult them in affairs (of moment). Then, when thou hast taken a decision put thy trust in Allah. For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him). (Surat Aal-`Imran, 3:159)
Allah (swt) has told Rasoolullah (s), you have khuluqun `azheem, you have great moral excellence, great manners. He has come to teach us Adab through Awliyaullah.
It continues, if that one is a scholar--do you go to the majlis of scholars? If you go to an `alim, you accompany him with recognition and esteem. But if he is not an `alim then you accompany him with management, you manage him well. If he is rich--mashaa-Allah, do you have rich friends? Alhamdulillah, then you have to escort them with zuhud, abstinence. That means you are not greedy with what they have. Don’t look at what he has. If he is poor, like the rest of us, what do you do? Accompany him with generosity. Look at the manners of Awliyaullah.
It is said, al-Adab suratu ‘l-`aql, your manners give an image of your mind. It’s like an X-ray of your mind. Your Adab, your etiquette, your conduct, your manners. Nobody can attain a high grade with poor manners. If you want to say something and you have a full mind, it is said that what you say becomes less. If your `aql is complete then your words become less and less. Awliyaullah have said that the one who has a good mind, his tongue is in his heart. Before he speaks, he presents what he is going to speak to his heart. If there is benefit, go ahead. If there is harm, you hold it. It is said that the tongue of the smart one is in his heart and the heart of the stupid one is on his tongue. You spill your emotions with anger and hatred. Some people can say rude things when you talk to them.
Sayyidina Ali (r) said it. Your tongue should be in your heart so you measure what you say before you say it with iman. The heart of the stupid one is on his tongue. When he stands up, his mind falls down.
That is the Adab of Awliyaullah. Rasoolullah (s) said, and I verified the Hadith which is in Bukhari, I am surprised at the Children of Adam. His two angels are on his teeth. Their pen is his tongue. His saliva is the ink. How can you speak in vain? How can you say nonsense? You have to watch your tongue. Rasoolullah (s) told his Sahaabah (r), most people will end up in Jahannam because of their tongues. Watch the tongue. Allow the tongue to be in your heart first before you say something. If it is good, say it. If it is something bad, don’t. Inshaa-Allah, Allah (swt) will make us learn Adab.
Adab is good. Adab is what keeps your honor high. The more Adab you have, the higher level you reach. Rasoolullah (s) said, the one who is closer to me is the one who is best in manners amongst you on Yaumu ‘l-Qiyamah. May Allah (swt) make us reach Ihsaan, moral excellence. Everybody can be difficult but it’s very hard to be a good one. Everybody can be a bad one. It’s very easy. May Allah (swt) forgive us.
I think it is enough advice. May Allah (swt) always keep us on the way of Rasoolullah (s), to follow his Makarimu ‘l-Akhlaq, to have that Rahmah as Allah (swt) has praised him to have, otherwise people would have escaped from around him. Asta’eedhubillah.
Fa bima Rahmatin minAllahi linta lahum. Wa law kunta fadhan ghalida ‘l-qalbi lanfaddu min hawlika. (Surat Aal-`Imran, 3:159)
I think in that ayah He says, fa`fu anhum wa ‘s-taghfirlahum wa shawiruhum fi ‘l-amri. Forgive them. Pardon them. Consult with them.
فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ ٱلْقَلْبِ لَٱنفَضُّوا۟ مِنْ حَوْلِكَ فَٱعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَٱسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِى ٱلْأَمْرِ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ
Rasoolullah (s) has to forgive the people next to him because we are all animals. Astaghfirullahu ‘l-azheem. That means our manners are bad. We kick and bite most of the time. Rasoolullah (s) was told, if you are guiding them, be forgiving, be pardoning. That is Makarimu ‘l-Akhlaq. Inshaa-Allah, we can be like that.
Wa min Allahi 't-tawfeeq, bi hurmati 'l-habeeb, bi hurmati 'l-Fatihah.
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